23-month-old Child Tantrum.?
Good night. I am Aziz, father of Agha. I want to ask, my child is 23 months old, next month on 21st is already 2 years, well lately his son is already in the sunset, he wants to play outside. (yes indeed, I once allowed to play outside), e but now it has become accustomed to, and when not allowed to play outside, the child must be crying and angry. u003cbr u003e u003cbr u003e
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Basically tantrums are a very, very normal thing that happens to toddlers and are part of normal emotional mental development in toddlers. Tantrums generally start when the child starts at 18 months, peaks at 2-3 years old, and will start to subside at 3-4 years old.
Because it is a normal development in toddlers (just like walking, talking, throwing a ball is a normal part of development), you don't need to worry too much if your child has tantrums. The following are some ways to deal with tantrums in children:
Never obey the wishes of the child when the child is experiencing tantrums (for example the child is angry because he wants to buy a certain toy, do not buy the toy when the child is angry). This will give an understanding to the child that he will get what he wants when he cries and gets angry, so that the child will tantrum more often. You can give his wishes (if it is also according to your wishes) when the child has begun to calm down and can control himself. Do not overreact when the child is experiencing tantrums (meaning you do not need to be angry or just give excessive attention to children). Just act like nothing has happened. If the child experiences tantrums in a crowded place, take your child to a quiet place and keep him company until his anger subsides (you don't need to do anything). If there is a tendency to hurt yourself or others (the child hits him or hits you or throws things), hug the child firmly from behind and let his anger subside. After the child's anger subsides, try to talk nicely to the child, what makes your child angry and the reason you forbid your child to do that. Even though children your age cannot speak well, children at that age already have a good understanding, so you can talk to them. Make sure you give a plausible reason why you forbid your child to do what he wants (for example children want to play scissors, you forbid because they don't want children to get hurt). Make sure your child knows that the prohibitions you make are for your child's own good. Make clear rules about what your kids can and shouldn't do, and apply them consistently. For example you do not allow children to play outside after Maghrib, so make sure you and your entire family (including also caregivers) always ask children to come in after Maghrib.
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