Are These Symptoms Of Postpartum Depression Or Just Ordinary Depression?
I am a young mother aged 23 years, I have a son 2 years old 8 months who are currently in active times and sometimes in my opinion naughty. Either because he is difficult to talk to or do not want to listen to me. I have difficulty controlling my emotions and anger, when my child acts something which is not in accordance with my will my emotions immediately overflowed, I screamed and yelled at my child, sometimes when he cried did not want to stop I also cried and felt very upset. want to do rough things like hitting, pushing, slapping etc. But sometimes on the one hand I realize it’s wrong and I’m very sorry, but on the other hand when my emotions have peaked I can’t control it, please what should I do
Hello Alyatul Mufidah, thank you for asking HealthReplies.com.
Tantrums are behavioral problems that are commonly experienced by preschoolers, in expressing emotions aggressively / extreme (because the ability of language to convey feelings and what is meant to parents is still limited). Child tantrums are indeed a challenge that often makes parents frustrated. It turned out that the percentage of tantrum children is quite high, reaching 87% at the age of 18-24 years, 87% at the age of 30-36 months and 87% at the age of 42-48 months.
Things to do when a tantrum child is:
ignore the child until he is calmer
when the child is calmer, try to talk to him by looking at his eyes (you can squat / sit so that your eyes and children are at the same level / height), ask what the child wants, what is wrong, and what is right, then state what you expect with quiet.
avoid hitting children, hitting children creates its own trauma to the child which can affect the development of psychology later, in addition it can trigger children to be inclined to dishonest / hide things from parents because of fear.
avoid bribing a child tantrum (don't give up following the child's will, because if he gives up the child will learn that tantrums are a way to get his will).
keep children away from dangerous objects, sharp and easily broken
after the child finishes tantrums, calms the child, or is hugged, teach him how to convey the right wishes.
when the child is unsuccessful (for example for 1 week), talk to the child, as a form of appreciation for him.
The following article about tantrums is interesting to increase knowledge. Need patience and determination to learn to deal with tantrum children. Ask for the involvement of the husband to support each other to face the child.
Regarding questions about post partum depression, the diagnosis has several criteria, namely loss of interest and motivation to perform its role, a sad / depressed affect, a bleak future outlook and feeling guilty experienced more than 2 weeks after giving birth. A complete and directed psychiatric interview is needed to diagnose the disorder. If after doing that you still have difficulty dealing with children, it never hurts to consult with a psychiatrist (there is also a psychiatric consultant child psychiatrist).
All of our suggestions and answers, hopefully useful.