Can Not Control Emotions And Hurt Yourself?
Hello, I want to ask, when I was a child until I was growing up I liked watching my domestic violence from my father, I always saw my mother being beaten, from verbal abuse to non-verbal, my mother was very patient, and now I am married and blessed with children , every time I fight with my husband, I can’t control myself, I was initially able to be patient 3x 5x but if my emotions were really peaked I would throw a tantrum and shout even I would dare to make myself sick, I like to hit myself, so my husband ran out of patience and hit me the first time he hit me, I got more angry and I became even more angry, and I couldn’t control my emotions, about u0026sup2; what should I do, doctor, I have tried very hard so that I am not emotional and raging u0026sup2; I already want to divorce, because of the cause of my emotions and anger because my husband who can never say softly to me and always blame me for what happened, is my mental illness, doctor, I am a person who is unable to go to a psychologist or hospital, please doctor answer my question, thank you doctor before
Hello, Thank you for the question.
Before that, I empathized with what you experienced. Having experienced a traumatic or unpleasant event in the past can indeed affect one's mental health. Likewise, the unpleasant events that you experience in the past have influenced your current condition, including the mindset, behavior, and way of interacting with others. At some point, this condition can cause mental health disorders, if triggered by a number of other factors. Some causes of your complaint are:
borderline personality disorder
If this condition continues to be left unchecked, this can affect your relationship with your husband and your health in general. Considering that this condition is already disturbing you and you are already hurting yourself, the best step is to consult further with a psychologist or psychiatrist because this condition is not an easy condition for you to handle alone at home. Some puskesmas currently provide services by psychologists. Thus, if you have cost constraints, you can look for the nearest health center that has a service by this psychologist, which may cost more. More information needs to be known by psychologists about your complaints and conditions so that your condition can be understood and psychologists can provide appropriate treatment.
You can try the following recommendations:
try to find the root of the problem every time you turn up with your husband and try to find a solution together
build good communication with your husband. Only with good communication can you and your husband reach a solution for the common good
try to occupy yourself with activities that you enjoy to help control the psychological stress that you face. Exercising regularly can also help you
If you feel emotional and want to get angry, try not to be in the same room with your husband, you can separate yourself from your husband (different room) then calm yourself for example by relaxing breathing by breathing deeply through your nose and exhaling slowly. land through the mouth. Do it repeatedly until you are calmer
You can also ask your family's opinion about the problem you are having so that you have a proposed solution to the problem
I hope this helps.