Coping With Unresolved Emotions In A New Partner?
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Good morning, thanks for asking at HealthReplies.com. Before discussing further, actually lies have never been the main choice in any social interaction, be it in the relationship between husband and wife, parent-child, doctor-patient, superior-subordinate, between friends and so on because lies often lead to other lies to cover it up. .
Then next, in your case, as you probably already know, in a marriage, or a couple's relationship, willingness to give in and hold on to the ego is key. No one person is 100% suitable for another person, because everyone has their own uniqueness and differences. When a person spends a long time with another person, little by little he will find flaws and things that irritate or dislike that person and this is normal. If you are always in pairs the goal is to 'win' yourself or your partner, then there will definitely be one party who is tormented, whether we realize it or not.
Couples are the art of understanding our partner's shortcomings and tolerating them. So after you've been with him for more than 3 years and are now married, you should already know what things will ignite his anger and what he doesn't like.
Besides that, behind his anger, there may be a feeling of insecurity that actually comes from his affection for you. For example, in the example you mentioned regarding jewelry, maybe he actually wants to give you jewelry too, but for one reason or another he can't do it and this makes his emotions ignite. After all, men have self-esteem which makes them always want to be happy and be the greatest for their women. And when he's faced with the fact that it can't be achieved, it can make a man emotional.
In the end, this problem should be resolved with your partner with a commitment to give in to each other and stop pretending you don't know what causes the other's emotions. Only with the awareness to glorify the couple can marriage run forever.
So, hopefully useful.
dr. Amadeo D Basfiansa