Danger Of Abortion?
Hello … I want to ask .. I’m a 25-year-old woman. Already have one son. And now I am pregnant with my second child … But my husband does not agree with my pregnancy. My pregnancy has been over for 3 months. I did not know what to make. Already tried various ways. How is the best way. Husband told me to have an abortion … I don’t want to. But teteh kekeh because of economic factors. I have to do doctor. Thanks for the doctor’s previous response … Hello
Wa alaikumsalam, thank you for asking at HealthReplies.com. Abortion behavior is not justified in medicine, except in conditions where the pregnancy is maintained, will threaten the life of the mother and only in that condition. Apart from that, if the mother is fine and the abortion is performed due to socio-economic and cultural reasons and so on, medical ethics does not allow doctors to abort patients, let alone allow patients to have abortions independently. Acts of independent abortion, can even threaten your life. In addition, abortion is certainly not taught in any religion or culture.
So with respect to your condition, we understand very well the concerns of your husband who may not be financially ready to have children, but you also have to be very aware that getting pregnant is not always easy. This may be old advice and you have often heard, but in reality, we as doctors have met so many couples who have difficulty having a baby, even after years of marriage, and after various methods, various treatments and tests that are not cheap . Some eventually have to take IVF as a last resort, and not a few have to accept that the only way they can have children is to adopt.
What is ironic is that there are many couples who eventually succeed in getting pregnant, but miscarriage in the middle of the road. Even more ironic, there are those who eventually succeed in being born, born in a state of disability, or experience certain syndromes that cause lifelong retardation.
So again what we want to say is that your condition is now pregnant is not trivial. If you have successfully conceived, given birth, and your child is growing normally, it is an irreplaceable gift. And of course, many people are willing to switch positions with you now. The existence of a fetus in your womb now is not a trial, but a destiny that only chosen people get. We understand that it may be difficult to persuade your husband, but try to give understanding slowly, that abortion is not an option. Even say there is no risk in the health sector, there is a risk in the legal sector, where abortionists can be sentenced to 10 years in prison or fines of up to Rp 1 billion. If your husband's problem now is economic, the economic problems he will face could be even greater if he decides to abort your womb. So for now, try to accept the child in your womb as he is, and in economic matters, we know that this is not our realm, but there will definitely be a way.
In the future, of course, things like this can be avoided by applying various methods of contraception. It can be with pills, condoms, dating methods, injections or implants. If you still have something to discuss, consult your problem with the midwife or obstetrician. So, hopefully answering your question.