Discomfort When Approached By Someone, Often Feel Lonely?
Hello. I am an 18 year old daughter. Indeed, those ages are very familiar with love. I want to ask, why when I am approached by other people I feel uncomfortable and want to get away from that person immediately? But on the other hand, I’m sometimes lonely.
Good morning, thanks for asking at HealthReplies.com. We understand your feelings. For teens, things can get confusing. Psychologically, this is the time to look for identity, find what you really like, determine your mindset, determine your attitude, determine how your self-image will have in the future, and much more.
In the process, adolescents have also begun to need closer social relations from a friend or best friend. Especially with today's social life where the relationship between men and women from a young age seems to be overstated, it seems as if there is an obligation for young people to immediately have a partner.
But you need to examine your discomfort when being approached by someone is it really because you do not want to interact with someone, or as simple as that person is not your "type". Each person has their own tastes, and when you talk about love, affection and love, you are not obliged to accept everything that comes to you. If you are not happy with his speech, his behavior, how to solve a problem, or maybe his posture and face, it doesn't matter if you withdraw. You simply prepare yourself as best you can for the man who will become your partner in the future.
It is different if you generally refuse social interaction with every man and or woman, even though they are kind and have never hurt you. Or if you cannot see yourself side by side with men and marry in the future. There may be an event in the past that affects your judgment in the present. But if it doesn't interfere with your needs as a social creature, you can still live a good and normal life. actually no problem.
Regarding the problem of loneliness, this should also be examined again, whether you really do not have friends, or you are still lonely when in fact there are many people around you. Do you not feel suitable to be friends with people around you both men and women, or you feel there is emptiness in you, all have a certain meaning.
Therefore, actually your problem can be clearer if you do it both ways. Our advice, you should check yourself with a psychologist, so that you also know yourself better, and know whether what is happening to you is a normal turmoil in adolescence or is a certain disorder. By seeing a psychologist, you can also tell a long story without worrying about feeling judged. And for some people, even just telling stories is included in one form of therapy.
In the meantime, what you need to believe is no one is forcing you to pair up with a fairly young age. You don't have a partner, so you will be happy, especially if you have a partner just because you comply with social demands. Be an independent person, while preparing yourself for true love. So, hopefully answering your question.