Fear Of Fathers After Receiving Domestic Violence?
Hello ?, I amma I am 16 years old, since I was a child, I often get violence from my father, until I had cut my hand, banging my head, etc. I was confused about what to do, I often thought about what I was living for, I felt scared, and was agitated by myself until sometimes if there are people who make me angry I think to kill him how to not be too afraid and how to overcome my emotional instability?
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The existence of riwyat parental violence on children, as well as a history of hurting yourself to feel your life is not useful, may be a form of psychological trauma that you received since childhood that can risk forming thought patterns and behaviors that are detrimental to yourself or the environment around you especially in your relationships with other people. Childhood trauma and perhaps you are still experiencing can cause psychologically traumatic injuries, negative behavior, rebellion, anarchism, or maybe antisocial. However, from what you say, you still try to be strong in dealing with all of these things, so you still want to form yourself not to be influenced by your past or the violence you experience. And for now and then, you have to eliminate self-injury or torture and you must control it. Divert the habit of hurting yourself with positive activities that you can do, such as social activities, school activities, study, or take a positive hobby for you. If you do not try to divert this habit of hurting yourself, this can affect you even further.
Some things can trigger violence in the family environment, such as:
1. Past parents who commit acts of violence get the same treatment as their childhood
2. Conditions of stress and stress experienced
3. Job problems
4. Drug abuse or alcohol use
5. Meet with moral issues or norms that you might violate or disobey
Some efforts you can make to reduce the risk of violence you receive:
1. Avoid conflicts that might occur with your parents or other family members
2. Obey all the norms and values that have been determined in your home environment
3. Respect your parents, so they are expected to change your parents and control their emotions more
4. Speak directly with your parents carefully to avoid misunderstanding
5. More humble and unselfish pre-ego
6. Reduce excessive desire to prevent the risk of conflict that might occur
Even if all of this still does not produce good results for you, you should remain calm, and still respect your parents as parents.
Henceforth, you keep trying to organize your emotions and control your psychology, so that you remain well-oriented, whether about your studies, your lifestyle, your social relationships, or your productivity at your current age.
If necessary, discuss with your mother or other family members, so that you get input and advice from your family members, especially from people or family members who are close to your father.
If all this is still difficult for you to do and this complaint is still bothering you, then you should consult a psychiatrist or psychologist. The doctor will conduct an interview related to the history of this complaint, and conduct a physical examination and psychological examination. The results of the examination will be a reference for your care and supervision. With the hope of helping you control all these complaints.
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