Feeling Deeply Disappointed If Something Is Not As You Wish?
Good evening, I want a little story. When I was in middle school my family had a problem, my mother ran away leaving me and my brothers at home. While my father was working in Malaysia, I was right “feeling frustrated at that time. Especially not long after a few months later my father died there, I was very depressed at the time. And now I am 21 years old, I have a boyfriend. I don’t have many friends and do not have a good relationship with my family at this time, obviously I hang all my hopes for this boyfriend.I am very focused want to be happy, loved, loved until if there are things that make me disappointed I really feel annoyed, angry, deep sad even though it small thing .. I feel I don’t want to be depressed like before, I want to never feel bitter at this time, was my mental right now? Because before when I was in high school I also felt things like this at school, I always feel lonely, unable to focus lessons, a deep fear without cause, and feeling sad without any reason .. please help me to explain this disease and ca Can I deal with it ??? Thank you
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We are also concerned about the exams that you have experienced before.
Traumatic events that occurred in the past, more or less can indeed affect your perspective in responding to everything that happens in your life in the future. This does not always reflect a mental disorder. As long as this condition does not control you, causes you to do things that are detrimental to yourself or others around you, and does not affect the quality of yourself, often this can still be said to be reasonable.
What you need to be aware of is, if the conditions that you experience actually make you lose control of yourself. This condition can also cause you to experience disturbing thoughts, for example in the form of delusions or hallucinations, which cause you to have difficulty interacting with your family, friends, or other people around you.
If this is your condition, you need to realize that your condition can be bad for yourself. Of course, you do not want to continue to sink into your past trauma anyway? Therefore, learn to think openly. Everybody is given by God, each exam with a different level of difficulty. Rest assured, God will not test you beyond your ability to deal with it. Instead, the test God gave you to form a better quality of yourself, not vice versa.
Therefore, make a traumatic moment in your life as a turning point to become a better person. Make sure that you can still get up, go forward, and be happy, even forged with a test that is not easy. Realize that many other people around you who are also given a life test are no less strenuous, but they have succeeded in passing it and making it a motivation to lead a better life. Not everything that happens in this world must be in accordance with our wishes. Our job as humans is to live life in the good way that God wants. Improve the quality of your worship, also increase your self-introspection to find out what needs to be improved in you. Learn also to always think positively, both to yourself, and others around you. Treat others, including your spouse, as you would like to be treated. With your positive energy, of course other people will be comfortable interacting with you, so you will no longer feel alone. Keep yourself busy with positive and productive activities, which can help you recognize your inner potential better. Choose a good social friend, do not fall into an unhealthy lifestyle, including those related to alcohol consumption, smoking, drugs, or free sex.
Do the various suggestions above slowly but consistently. In that way, your outlook on yourself, others and life will slowly change for the better. If you have difficulty, do not hesitate to consult directly with a doctor or psychiatrist to be provided with appropriate assistance.
Hope this helps ...