Feeling That You Don’t Have Anyone Is Depression?
Hello. I am Assyifa and I am 20 years old. I want to ask about depression. It’s been a long time since I felt that I couldn’t hang out with her friends like the people out there. I always ask in hating why I have to have this kind of character (can’t make other people feel comfortable u0026amp; always not chosen by my friends who make me very sad, worried u0026amp; restless) Early in college, I started trying to be friendly And try to make friends with new friends u0026amp; I also felt that I made a lot of friends, I was very happy at that time. But after 3 months passed, it didn’t happen again. I feel like I used to feel like I didn’t have friends, I feel like my friends who now have chosen friends who feel comfortable with each other, have started to have other friends from associations, etc. And only I was left alone, not even one close friend I had. Until finally, I prefer to want to be alone, want to finish college quickly. And during semester breaks (3 months) I always think how will I go to college later? Meanwhile, I don’t have any friends at all, while others already have a lot of close friends. I’m worried u0026amp; restless. So you can’t sleep every night. Even I feel sad again in my family, my super brother Dan who can hang out with, I feel jealous. Why don’t they choose me, until I feel better myself. Even though I really want to have lots of friends u0026amp; easy to get along. Does this include depression? And what should I do to reduce anxiety u0026amp; worry about what the future holds when I always feel alone u0026amp; no friends? And I always feel unselected, and I can’t make other people feel comfortable with me. Please help. Thanks.
Hello Assyifa, Thank you for the question.
Depression is a mood disorder that affects the way a person thinks and feels which further affects the way that person behaves towards their environment. A person can experience depression due to the influence of various factors such as genetic factors, psychological factors, socioeconomic factors, biological factors, and environmental factors. Traumatic events are one of the triggers. Depression causes a person to become sad, disappointed, discouraged, lose interest in things that usually make him interested, blame himself, get angry easily, and have suicidal thoughts. This condition can also cause physical symptoms such as fatigue, difficulty sleeping, constipation, anxiety disorders, menstrual disorders in women, changes in appetite, and changes in body weight.
From the stories you tell, this may have more to do with your personality. Some people find it easier to open up and get along with others but others who are more introverted and more difficult to interact with socially. Building interactions with other people is not easy for some people. What you should do first is not to think negatively about people's reactions to the interactions you are trying to initiate. Try to instill positive thoughts in your mind, because if you start with negative thoughts then you will not be free to interact with other people. You should also realize that not everyone will get along with you and this is normal but you should keep yourself open and try to stay in touch with your friends. Furthermore, not everyone has the same personality and you don't have to try to be someone else. You can also try to search for some interesting topics to open a conversation with.
If you feel this condition is bothering you and you need further help, you can consult a psychologist. However, to diagnose someone who has depression or does not need further examination by a psychiatrist / psychiatrist. Your doctor will ask you a number of questions to understand the impact this condition has on your mental health. After understanding what happened to you, your doctor will determine the next treatment for you.
Hope this information is useful.