Feeling Too Much Pressure After Giving Birth?
I want to ask why I like to change, change the mod, sometimes I feel happy, sometimes I like excessive emotions, but if I remember the past, I like being sad until lazy, why what else, especially if it’s late, sometimes I think about something until I can’t sleep until morning … happy I was depressed until now, I like to keep on going, at that time so I like to be sad mixed with emotions when I remember, and yesterday since I gave birth I felt depressed because of the people around me, I felt that I was considered as being insignificant and not good at caring for my baby just because I wanted to calm without them because I feel I have my own way, I feel helpless because I have to obey the rules of people who are contrary to the means of the doctor and until now I feel guilty and sorry I want to repeat from the beginning again it feels, I did not succeed to be a good mother because my child is late in development because of lack of stimulation, again parents like to ban lar This can’t be that, even though I want to stimulate my child to grow normally, which makes me sad that my child has a flat head because it can’t be tilted right and left by my parents-in-law, I’m sad about my helplessness, basically I’m always thinking about things that have passed for others is normal but for me I don’t like to overdo it when I worry about something, I am sad that my life journey is added like that, I am traumatized not to have children anymore when I remember that time .. What should I do so that I can be calm and relaxed
Hello Lutfi, Thank you for the question.
Everyone has the same method of parenting. Your parents or in-laws will certainly recommend you how to care for / raise children they have practiced before. The way your parents or in-laws have done is not necessarily wrong, but it may also be irrelevant at this time. Indeed, differences of opinion often cause discomfort for you, often trigger psychological stress. In this condition, you need ways to establish good communication with your parents or in-laws. It is not easy, but it is not impossible.
Changes in mood that you experience may have started from the experience in the past which is then added to the current stressor. If you are not able to manage this stress properly, then this stress has the potential to cause further mental health disorders. The complaints you submit can be caused by:
depression bipolar disorder anxiety disorder The right step you can take now is to consult a psychologist or psychiatrist. Your psychologist or doctor needs to ask questions from you to better understand your condition and then be able to determine the treatment that is appropriate for you, which can be in the form of psychological therapy or medication if needed. Another thing that is no less important for you to do is consult with your pediatrician further so that the doctor can examine your child to assess the growth and development. If there is indeed a developmental delay, the doctor can recommend treatments that are appropriate for your child's condition. You can also do the following suggestions:
do not hesitate to express / convey information submitted by the doctor to your parents or in-laws. If necessary, take your parents or in-laws when checking the child to the pediatrician so that they also get the right information from the doctor. communicate with your husband to help convey information conveyed by the doctor involve your husband to attend seminars or find information on how to nurture, stimulate, and educate children to share stories / experiences with other mothers while maintaining health by resting sufficiently, consuming nutritious food, multiply consumption of water, and exercise regularly following yoga or meditation to help cope with mood swings especially anxiety Hopefully this information helps you.