Feeling Unhappy When Being Pitied And Showing Weakness To Others?
I really hate feelings of compassion, as much as possible I always try to harden my heart when suddenly the feeling is present. I do not like to be called weak and whiny by the environment, therefore as much as possible I deny it, I do not like being pitied and show my concern or weakness to others. What’s wrong with me? How is my psychological state according to the doctor? Please explain, thank you.
The majority of people feel the same way about you. Humans tend not to be pitied. The term pity usually arises when someone sees other people who are incapable or lower, for example, seeing beggars on the road, seeing a puppy whose legs are limping, or seeing an old grandfather pulling a heavy wagon. Pity is not necessarily followed by acts of help. For most people, pity makes them feel that they are no longer seen as human beings but as objects. Meanwhile, a human tends to want to look strong and capable.
It is impossible to avoid being "pitied" by others, especially if our condition is indeed in a "difficult" state. To avoid this, show that we are confident, doing every activity happily and excitedly. Just explain to others to not need to feel sorry / sorry for the conditions that we experience, say thank you for any help (if any).
If feeling compassion or sympathy from another person causes extreme stress on you to affect social and work relationships, you should further consult with a psychiatrist. Maybe your problem is not limited to dislike, but there are other stressors that trigger it.
Thus the explanation from me, may be useful.