Frequent Self-blame Due To Past Trauma?
Good afternoon. I am Ida I am 16 years old. My father died 8 years ago, since my father left me, I continued to be a source of relief when my mother was emotional, or when I made a mistake, I have never discussed it well with my mother. However, my mother was always angry with me until sometimes sometimes she bowed my head. For the last 2 years since I was formed, I kept blaming myself when there was something wrong in my life, like a problem with friends, even though I was not wrong, I kept blaming myself, I wasn’t satisfied with just crying, but also beat my body until something hurts. Is there a solution for me? I told my mother about what I used to do, but instead was scolded and called me crazy. Please advise🙏
p dir = "ltr"> Hi Ida, thank you for asking at HealthReplies.com
I can understand how you feel right now.
The problems you are experiencing cause you to experience excessive stress. This condition causes psychiatric disorders. The risk of experiencing a mental disorder is increased in someone who has a family history and past trauma, such as violence in childhood. Types of psychiatric disorders associated with your complaint are:
1. Depression is a mood disorder, in the form of feelings of sadness, uselessness, self-blame or loss of interest in everything in life, which lasts for at least 2 weeks, causing changes in behavior, thoughts and feelings, which results in disruption of activities daily, self-help activities, social relationships and work. Patients will appear depressed, aloof and not excited.
2. Post-traumatic stress disorder, is a condition of stress triggered by previous trauma.
I suggest you should consult with a psychiatrist. The doctor will do a mental and physical examination of you. The doctor will give antidepressant medication if needed. The doctor will also guide you in undergoing behavioral therapy.
Some tips that we can give to you, namely:
1. Return all your problems to the creator.
2. You have to realize that blaming yourself in dealing with problems is useless.
3. Act and say well in order to avoid problems.
4. Forgive every mistake people make against you.
5. Don't be hard to apologize, even if you feel innocent.
6. Ask for the support of people around you by sharing your current problems.
7. Bring your mother and siblings control to a psychiatrist.
8. Don't be shy to visit a psychiatrist. Because psychiatrists not only deal with psychosis or crazy people, but also deal with all those who want to consult psychiatrists like you.
Thus hopefully useful.