Handling Of Fear Is Not Confident?
Hello, I want to ask a few months ago I was broken up with my partner. And even during courtship my relationship broke up, after I broke up yesterday I felt very broken hearted and hurt to trust people again. Friends – My friends have supported me to rise from the pain but I cannot fully trust them so I feel that only I will bear this pain. Then there was a close friend of mine, he was kind and alleviated the burden of my heartache, but he had a girlfriend and was always fickle with himself. Until finally he broke my close relationship with him, I felt isolated again, my anxiety recurred. I was afraid that I could not rise from the pain again, so I would often be dazed with empty thoughts, my breathing was tight, my heart was pounding, I could not sleep, when I cried alone and suddenly – I could laugh without thinking. thank you
Hello Rizka, thank you for asking.
Unpleasant events are indeed natural if they cause trauma or anxiety. Relationships with couples who do not run smoothly, actually is a natural problem that has ever been experienced by everyone. The difference is someone's response to the unpleasant experience. Of course someone needs time to feel comfortable again. Some people take several months, or several weeks. Some of them take a little longer. You have the right to feel a variety of emotions such as sadness, anger, disappointment, but of course you can not continue to drag on stuck in these conditions. Conditions of sadness, disappointment, fear, constant anger that disrupt a person's productivity and quality of life, can continue into a state of depression or anxiety disorders.
You can make a list of positive and negative things that you get during and after leaving the relationship. You can also make a list of what support has been provided by your friends and family so far. It is hoped that your logic will be better trained. You can begin to rule out negative feelings. Assisted by a more honed logic, you should be able to see the situation more positively. Focus on positive interesting activities.
You might assume that this problem is currently the hardest problem you have ever experienced. But you must remember that there may be more serious problems later on. Use this unpleasant experience to become a strength in the face of obstacles. If necessary, consult your problem with a psychologist or psychiatrist. Get close to God and use a relaxation method to rest your mind.
Hopefully you can get out of this problem soon. Regards