How To Deal With A 3 Year Old Boy Who Is In A Tantrum?
good morning, I have a 3-year-old boy, every day my husband and I work at home together with Uti and Kung, my son is super active every day at home. start climbing tables, windows, crying without being able to be controlled especially if at the same time I get angry pulling my hair pinched bite my face bleed, I can sometimes calm down sometimes yes emotions, usually I hug but when I hug him he doesn’t hurt me, what should I do huh sometimes I pinch him, but after that I cry and feel guilty that I can’t tell,
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Tantrums are a common behavior problem experienced by preschoolers, because the ability of language to convey feelings and what is meant to parents is still limited. Child tantrums are indeed a challenge that often makes parents sad, irritated and even frustrated. Keep in mind the percentage of tantrums is quite high, reaching 87% at the age of 18-24 months, 87% at the age of 30-36 months and 87% at the age of 42-48 months.
Things to do when a tantrum child is:
ignore the child until he is calmer
when the child is calmer, try to talk to him by looking into his eyes (try to be at the same level), ask what the child wants, what is wrong, and what is right, then state what you want calmly.
avoid hitting the child, hitting the child creates its own trauma to the child which can affect later psychological development. Hitting a child will also make the child tend to be dishonest to parents (covering up the facts out of fear).
avoid bribing a child / don't give up following the wishes of the child, because if you surrender the child will learn that tantrums are a way to get what he wants.
keep children from sharp objects and easily broken
after the child has finished tantrums, calm the child and teach him how to convey the right wishes.
give the child to the child, as a form of appreciation to him if it has been successful not tantrum for a certain period of time (eg 1 week).
ask for the involvement of husbands to support each other facing children.
It takes patience and determination to learn to deal with tantrum children. Read this article to increase knowledge about dealing with tantrum children (1). Tips for dealing with tantrum children (2).
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