How To Deal With Pain During Intercourse After Childbirth?
Good afternoon. I want to ask. My wife has 3 months of smallpox surgery as well as the removal of benign, clear colored cysts. R nBut when she was in contact, she felt pain that she could not bear. R nThat’s why thank you
Intimate intercourse after giving birth, be it a normal or cesarean delivery, is a safe and normal thing to do as long as the wife's physical and psychological condition has recovered. If intercourse is done too quickly without considering the wife's condition, problems may occur, for example the wife feels pain during intercourse or the wife cannot enjoy the relationship and cannot reach orgasm. In general, intercourse can be done at any time after completing the puerperium (4-6 weeks), but it may take longer depending on the condition of each woman.
Some conditions that can cause problems (such as pain) during intercourse after childbirth are:
The wife is afraid that the stitches will open, which can lead to the body becoming tense and prone to pain
The wife is exhausted after a day of taking care of the baby and the house
The influence of the hormone breastfeeding can reduce sex drive, although in some women it actually increases sex drive while breastfeeding
The presence of infection and irritation of the vagina and cervix
To help your condition and your wife, here are some tips you can do:
Communication between husband and wife: this is the most important to know the wife's physical and psychological readiness
If the wife is not psychologically ready to have sex, it's better to do other activities that build intimacy so that the wife can be more slowly prepared
The wife does relaxation, you can also massage the wife so that her body is more relaxed and at the same time relieving fatigue after taking care of the baby
Urinate before and after sex
Use additional lubricants if necessary so that the vagina is not dry and relieves pain
Try to keep your wife from being crushed or depressed when having sex
Avoid intercourse too rushed or too hard, adjust to the comfort of both
If with the tips above your wife continues to feel intense pain that interferes with intercourse, it is better for your wife to consult with an obstetrician first to determine whether there is a physical cause. If the physical condition is good but still feels pain, the doctor may refer your wife to consult a doctor who is an expert in sexology or a psychiatrist so that further treatment can be given.
The following articles are related to the topic of your question:
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Enjoy sex without pain
Thank you and hope it helps,
dr. Devika Y