How To Deal With Stress Due To Living With Other People?
Doctor, I want to ask. I was not close to my grandmother and grandfather since childhood (not very close). and now I live with them. I have been there for about 4 months I lived here. actually before living here I left my school because of college. when I was told to go to college to visit them I must have been angry before leaving. always feel at home. when I lived here I was angry all the time, until my body was hot from anger. in a week can get angry 3-4x angry. sometimes also I feel sorry for them if scolded continuously. I’m here too, there are no friends to talk just stories so it makes it more stressful. I’m tired like this. I have been shut down for a lot of stress. I’m starting to confide in books, eating chewing gum, going for a walk, but still when I get home emotionally continues to rise. what is the solution?
Good evening, thanks for asking at HealthReplies.com. We understand your feelings. Sometimes we really wonder why we can issue a response to something that is actually unnecessary. For example, sometimes we are easily upset with someone, even though the person is not wrong, or indeed wrong, but it's not that bad for us to respond so hard.
In your case, the first thing you have to understand is that, after all, they are older than you, from whom your parents were born, and you just hitch a ride with them. So you must respect them, while maintaining the norm of decency and not being abusive, no matter how upset you feel about them. Relieve your frustration at something else, which does no harm and does not harm yourself or others, and also does not make them feel hurt.
Then, evaluate again what caused you to be upset. Is that something that deserves to end with anger or not. You might need someone else's opinion by giving specific examples of what conditions make you angry. If it turns out that your grandfather and grandmother's behavior is natural when it triggers your anger, then tell your parents, and discuss whether there are other solutions, for example by returning to boarding somewhere else or something. If it is not possible and you have to stay there, then it means you really have to give in and find a busyness that allows you to channel your emotions positively.
But if it turns out, in fact your anger is unwarranted, and that your grandparents actually do not deserve to be scolded but you still feel upset and angry at them, then there are certain conditions that must be examined further on yourself. For this reason, consult yourself with a psychologist to find out more deeply through a series of digging history and interviews, also maybe certain tests to find out what really happened to you, why you can be so annoyed at someone who did nothing wrong to you. What is clear in the meantime, whatever the reason, control yourself as best you can not hurt them either from words or deeds. Tired yourself with activities such as sports and organizational activities, and try to think from their side. So, hopefully answering your question.