How To Get Rid Of The Taste Of Ilfeel?
how to disappear the feelings of ilfeel my close friend of me who have known each other for almost 2 years. He said he shunned me only because of my ignorant attitude toward one of the restaurant managers we used to visit
Good evening, thanks for asking at HealthReplies.com. Psychological problems and feelings are indeed an interesting thing, but also complicated. Said to be interesting because something that seems abstract indeed has its own knowledge and can sometimes be predicted in certain ways, and is said to be complicated because there are many factors that influence and are not always the same application to each person so that it cannot be arbitrary in concluding.
One of them is in your case with your friend. There are various reasons when someone does not like, avoid or behave differently to other people, and it is not impossible that what you think is the reason he is avoiding you, is indeed the real reason. It could be that during this time you do have a certain attitude that he does not like, it could actually he likes the manager but the manager likes you. Even though he tells you that he does not like you because of your ignorant attitude to the incident, it could be just the culmination of frustration that has been cultivated for so long, or he does not dare reveal the real reason for being embarrassed or afraid you will not understand it so to say that reason. Anything can happen because we don't know the exact moment of the incident.
Whatever it is, to be able to find out for sure, there is no other way but to ask him directly. Because as great and as detailed as the details of psychology or the science of psychology, will not be able to know for certain what is in someone's thoughts and feelings. Even when people who are directly related say it, it is not uncommon that it still cannot describe their feelings fully, because indeed not everything can be described in words. That said, no one understands one's emotions, pain, happiness, panic and anxiety as well as that person.
Therefore our advice, meet your friends, ask to talk nicely with him. Apologize to him, even though you may not know your mistakes. Tell them that you want your relationship to be the same as before and that you want to improve. Listen to complaints, and do not need to defend yourself. If he still does not want to see you or there is no intention to make up, then that is indeed his decision, and you can only wait for the time until his feelings soften. So, hopefully answering your question.