How To Overcome Excessive Thinking When There Are Problems?
Why do I always think of bad things when I have to tell my problem to dad? I still live depending on my father, because I was in college (23 years). how is it that I can still love my father and still be able to make my own decisions with enthusiasm?
Hello Ayu Puspita,
Overthinking may be experienced by everyone occasionally in his life. However, if a person experiences overthinking at any time, thereby hampering his activities and work, as well as disrupting social interaction and relationships with others, it needs to get extra attention.
The form of overthinking can be:
Ask yourself repeatedly about the decision to be taken or already taken
Try to predict what will happen in the future
Try to guess what the other person is thinking about before you ask something
Anxiety and fear of making a mistake or asking something unpleasant
Feel trapped in one place / condition
When you make a mistake you will tend to think it over and over again
Patients with overthinking tend to ask "what if ..." repeatedly and sometimes only end up in a state of questioning it without doing what they should have done. Overthinking that is often experienced can cause psychological stress and is associated with mental disorders such as anxiety disorders and depression.
If you have difficulty handling this condition alone, you can go to a psychologist to be able to tell your problem and get help. Some things you can also do to overcome the overthinking:
The intention to want to change
Try not to think what bad things will come, but try to change thinking about what good things will come when you do something or ask a question
There is no need to be discouraged or inferior if the results are not up to expectations or the answer to a question that you raise is unsatisfactory
Reduce perfectionism in yourself
Try to be honest with family members or close friends you trust about your problems
Give a time limit for the work you do, including when you want to tell a problem to your parents or make a decision.
Self-aware that we cannot predict what will happen and someone's response to what we ask or tell
Always be grateful for everything that you currently have
Thus the explanation from me, hopefully useful.