How To Respond To People Who Like To Be The Center Of Attention?
Hello, I want to ask. Some days I was disturbed by the attitude of my colleague, just call A. I knew him 1 year ago. He behaved abnormally. When people are talking to other people; Not with A, A suddenly responded and laughed to himself. A talked a lot in our social media group, about personal interests, even though nobody asked, and that wasn’t important to us either. If told how to act right, A does not want to accept and seek justification for his attitude. The advice our colleagues gave was not done and A continued to behave as before. I feel like A doesn’t listen to me. Like just saying yes.If described this is part A: Often laugh at things that are not funny Selfish and likes to be the center of attention Too confident, pretentious and talkative Don’t want to listen and be blamed Don’t have a sense of empathy and can’t read how he feels other people’s feelings This is what really amazes me: One day I told him I was having a problem, in general people will join in sadness and motivate me, but A instead laughed. I feel bad because he was shunned by people. But I’m confused about it, because I have to work with him. Does the doctor believe there are people like him? Why is he like that? Should I stay away or become his friend?
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In social relations between individuals, both at home, in neighborhood, or at work; You will find a variety of characteristics of people who you might like, just normal or even hate or dislike. Variation of human nature and human behavior is a natural within the scope of human life, this is a form of individual variation physically and psychologically; as well as providing uniqueness for each individual. In general, these different behavioral and behavioral characteristics will shape you, people around A, and A will learn to understand themselves and others and want to learn how to interact with themselves and others.
Individuals with behavior like the A can not be changed or changed by others, because the one who can change his attitude, character and behavior is himself or the rules attached to him. In addition, individuals such as Person A cannot be confirmed or diagnosed psychologically, because there is a need to do a psychiatric examination directly on Person A to obtain information on his psychological condition. However, in general, individuals like this A, who often cannot put themselves in their environment well sometimes have a background of life that is psychologically different from others, such as:
1. do not have a good or strong religious background
2. encountered many problems in his life, especially problems that are not resolved
3. does not have many friends, so he tries to be known and accepted in other environments
4. bad habits to health, such as lack of sleep so difficult to control emotions or stress
5. has an unpleasant past, so he tries to compensate him with his behavior and nature
In the context of your relationship within the scope of work, you will not be able to change someone as you wish, you cannot always advise him, you cannot always be disappointed with what he is doing, so you should continue to carry out the tasks you should carry out and complete, whenever you have to work with him, you do not need to stay away, because this will affect the tukas and your work. Thus, as far as possible continue to communicate professionally in the scope of work. Outside of work, you can communicate appropriately, and you should not need to respond or be reactive to anything done either in the group or in other environments. Even if he interrupts your conversation, laughs or lacks respect for you or other friends, you are calm enough and don't overreact, because this will affect your emotions and comfort. Professional evaluation will be the authority of the company or where you work.
If you have an increasingly disturbing complaint regarding interpersonal relationships at your job, you can discuss with your company doctor or with your HR at your place of work. Thus, HR or your company's doctor can provide recommendations for you or your work environment.
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