How To Respond To The Closest Person Who Has BPD?
Regards. R nSo I have someone close who seems to have BPD. First, because he has 100 incisions on his hand. He is the one who tells himself that he feels emotional, the most effective way for him is to cut himself, throw things, or break things to the point of hurting his own body. R nI have known him these 2 months. what I saw most clearly from her were the facial expressions and emotions that can change drastically in a short period of time. For example, when hanging out together, he will act normal. But if suddenly there are things that are very trivial but he doesn’t like (example: he wants me to sit next to him, but I don’t want to), suddenly his face and eyes turn red as if holding back emotions, suddenly silent, holding a fork / gripping the cellphone very tightly. If I let him, usually he would come home and lock himself in the room and hit the wall. Or go and speed down the street. R nBut if I approach and then hug and other general physical contact such as holding her hand, she will calm down instantly. And his expression returned to normal. R nWhat I want to ask is, I am not his family, only his closest friend who has only known him for 2 months, how do I deal with people like that? R nSorry and thank you.
Good evening, Dhiafinna. Thank you for the question.
BPD or borderline personality disorder is a disorder in a person's personality, where generally the main signs are mood swings or instability, impulsive behavior, thought patterns, and intense but unstable relationships. To establish a person at this diagnosis requires a thorough examination from a psychiatrist / psychiatrist, because there are several other criteria that need to be met to make a diagnosis of this disorder. Some other possible medical or psychological conditions that can occur in a person with these symptoms include:
- anxiety disorders
addiction to alcohol or drugs
The cause of a person's personality disorder cannot be determined with certainty and generally there are many factors such as environmental factors, brain abnormalities, genetics, etc. Meanwhile, what you can do includes:
- listen to the problems and complaints that your friends are experiencing
- suggesting your partner to do activities he likes
- pay attention / pay attention to every action he does, what he likes and dislikes to better understand the condition of his attitude and behavior
If indeed the possibility of an abnormality in his personality is getting bigger, then you can take him to the doctor so that the doctor can check and determine the diagnosis precisely so that the next treatment is also more appropriate. If your colleague starts to show signs of dangerous behavior to both himself and those around him, then immediately contact the nearest hospital or ask his family for help to take him to the doctor / hospital immediately.
Thus the information we can convey, thank you.