How To Speak Up Against Sexual Harassment?
Good afternoon, I have the weakness of not daring to fight the abuser. It so happened that I was abused when I was in elementary school for many years, when I was harassed I just kept silent and did not dare to refuse or rebel. Then a few days ago when I went up because someone was harassing and I still didn’t dare to speak up. How can I speak up?
Good afternoon, thank you for asking at HealthReplies.com. We understand your feelings. Although many people underestimate or underestimate victims of abuse who do not openly oppose the perpetrators with various accusations, in reality to fight in these conditions is indeed not easy.
Not only in women, in men any condition can occur. When someone is confronted with something that makes him very scared, worried, panicked and extremely anxious, for example in the case of robbery, that person may just keep quiet, do whatever is asked and his common sense or body does not work as it should, even though basically he knows what should be done when the incident has passed.
In dealing with this it is indeed not simple, you must know the background of events and clear psychological conditions to be able to determine what is most appropriate for you. But in general, what we can do first is try to increase self-confidence. This can be done by making our portion to speak in public. You can do this by taking every opportunity you speak, for example when there are group presentation assignments, delivering lectures and so on. By frequently speaking in public, you are better trained in conveying what is on your mind.
Furthermore, you can also practice confidence by getting acquainted with many new people. When speaking in public the opportunity is difficult, you can train by talking to fellow passengers, office friends or college friends that you don't normally talk to, and so on. Same with public speaking, doing this will make it easier for you to pour out what's on your mind.
Then, practice martial arts or at least be diligent in exercising. The feeling of being unable to move and not daring to fight is because in our understanding, we are weaker than the doers. With you often exercising or even learning self-defense, you will be more confident, and less likely to look down on yourself. That way, you have more power to fight the abuser, at least in verbal form.
And there are many other things that might be more specific, such as through behavioral therapy or hypnotherapy methods, which is clear for that would be better if you consult directly with a psychologist or psychiatrist, because there will be a need for an examination first. Besides that, of course, other prevention efforts are needed, such as riding a carriage specifically for women if the context is a train and a woman-only area when riding a bus. Also, don't go home too late or travel alone to lonely places. So, hopefully answering your question.