How To Stop Dirty Speech In The Heart?
Hello.. doctor, I want to ask my classmate who always talks dirty… well, suddenly my mind is like following those dirty words and they keep saying it until it makes me angry and breaks the table.. my question is how do I keep my mind from repeating those words. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . again
Hello Mr Surya,
Humans have the nature of imitation and mirror that can imitate what is often seen or heard, thus humans can learn something. Of course, harsh or obscene words are not worth imitating and it is good that you realize this is bad and you feel annoyed about it, because it is disrespectful and not according to our cultural norms. Tips that can be given are: Establish in your heart and mind that harsh and obscene words are not useful and do not need to be said. It's better not to hate your friends, but try to feel sorry for him because he doesn't realize that his habits are bad and disturbing and even feared that in the future it can hamper his career or work environment in the future. Try to give a light warning and in a sentence that does not hurt that you are annoyed by the words that are not pleasant to hear. Or if it is difficult, it can be discussed with the class leader or other friends. If it is difficult to tell, it is better to avoid the friend, such as changing seats, or using a headset to listen to songs when the class is empty. There is no need to think too much about these rude and disrespectful words, because the more you think about it or hate it, the more it rings.
Bad associations destroy good habits, if the friend is a bad influence that is difficult to change then you should avoid it and make friends with others who are more positive. may be useful