Indifferent, Indifferent, Without Expression When Communicating?
Hello. I want to ask about my sister. My sister is 18 years old. As far as my mother and I are concerned, my sister is difficult to communicate with. When I was talking, and I asked a question, my brother could not hear it. So I repeated the question 2-5 times. Sometimes after I ask there is a pause: I wait for him to answer, but he doesn’t answer. Finally when I repeat the question, it responds as if I had not asked before. Another case, for example when my mother asked for help in the morning, he would answer indifferently, sometimes just be quiet and not do it. At noon, my mother asked again if he had done it, the response given if he did not answer at all, sometimes indifferent / indifferent or he would be angry, sometimes he would say with annoyance, “when did you ask my phone?” If we repeat the question, he will sometimes get angry too, “once you can, why do you keep on going”. Though he did not respond to the first question, so sometimes we are confused whether he listens / understands or not. If I tell him, respo. given only silence. When I asked, he answered “why do all things have to be answered?” “Yes, what else do I want to say.” When I told him about his nature, I explained how that trait often made other people upset / annoyed because he seemed unconcerned especially when you need to talk about important things. I also ask why he is like that, is he aware of his nature. He did not answer. When I insisted, he only answered that he did not know. When there was something that had to be decided, he could not decide on it / could not make a choice. Simple questions sometimes he did not understand so I had to repeat asking again. That happened when the conversation was done when he was playing phone, sometimes also when he was not doing anything. Back in childhood, he was a cheerful and bright kid. At the moment I am with my younger brother in a boarding house and honestly I am frustrated when that happens again. Simple conversations everyday like going to a restaurant to A just feels difficult, for me. Besides having to be patient and give in, what else should I do? Last year we did not talk at all like strangers because I decided to not communicate with him as a result I was really frustrated. However, this new year, I do not want that to happen again, because he is my biological brother. If he was just an acquaintance, I would certainly not be friends with him anymore, let alone write here. I with my mother as a close family can not understand the contents of his mind, because he never poured it. I know everyone’s personality is different and I have to be patient with my brother. Maybe from my story, the doctor can guess why this little sister of mine? Ua once said that he was “depressed”. But Tidaj never really told stories. Is it possible that my sister is still in the process of puberty? Does he have a personality disorder? Should he be taken to a psychologist? Sorry, my story might be too simple for this website, but I really need help in the form of answers. thanks.
Hello Julia! Thank you for asking at HealthReplies.com.
Of course it's very hard to see your little sister become like that huh. Adolescents are very susceptible to depression. Greater environmental demands accompanied by physical and emotional changes make it difficult for adolescents to control mood. One way you can do is understand and listen. You don't need to know the problem that your sister is experiencing if he really doesn't want to tell you, but you need to understand if he is sick. Depression is a disease, not just an emotional disturbance and not necessarily due to certain events. If indeed your sister's disorder has indeed happened more than a year, chances are she does have psychiatric illness, one of which is depression. If you are just frustrated seeing your little sister, try to imagine how frustrated your little sister would deal with the disease alone. You need to always be there for him. No need to ask repeatedly about what happened. Accompany your sister, so that when she wants to tell a story, you are there for her. Make an attitude like you would accept if your sister wanted to tell you anything.
You should take your sister to see a psychiatrist (a specialist in mental health) for examination. The psychiatrist will explain whether your sister is indeed depressed or has another disorder. Also bring your mother with you, the psychiatrist might also want to talk to your mother separately after checking your sister. The psychiatrist will provide appropriate therapy for your sister's condition. Come for control again according to the specified time. Do not stop treatment without instructions from a psychiatrist even though the symptoms that appear have begun to diminish.
That's all information from me. I hope this helps.