Life Is Like There Is No Purpose After Losing The Closest Person?
Good evening. R nI am Nana, 24 years old. R nEnd last year my idol commited suicide. It’s been 6-7 months since the incident that I feel like the life I live in is now hopeless and hopeless. During that incident I wanted to cry, but a part of me seemed to be holding me back from crying. Since that incident until now I have had difficulty crying, I felt like crying but stuck in my chest. I find it difficult to talk about this problem with people around me. After the TB incident I felt pressured to go out and interact with people. Everyone I met, all of them kept asking if I was okay, trying to comfort and strengthen me but it all made me even more depressed. Whenever I saw the news about the incident, my chest ached as if it had been hit by a large hammer. I still can’t forget every second of that incident. Sometimes when the flashback of that incident suddenly plays in my head, I suddenly feel tremendous fear, my hands and body suddenly tremble, my body suddenly becomes cold and numb, my heart is beating very fast, my breath is like someone who has run away. After that incident I always felt sad every day, and it got worse at nighttime or when it rained. Anything can make me sensitive suddenly. So from that I chose to stay more in the room. When I feel down and depressed, sometimes I think of ending my life too, but I am really afraid of my thoughts. I am afraid that one day I will be overpowered by my thoughts and choose to give up. R n Was my soul shaken after the incident or was this natural? What must I do so that I can cry and let go of the burdens and tightness I feel?
Hi Nana .. Thank you for the question given.
Losing the closest person is really hard, especially if that person is the person we idolize. However, don't let the sadness of the loss drag on and affect our daily lives. From the explanation of the complaint you mentioned above, the causes of your complaint include:
Depression - can be caused by having experienced a significant traumatic event including the loss of a loved one. Symptoms of depression include: not being excited to do things you like, difficulty sleeping, feeling inferior and useless, lack of energy, looking sad, disappointed, worrying easily, irritability and sensitivity. If this continues, PTSD / Post traumatic stress syndrome suicidal thoughts can arise - the symptoms that arise are: emotional changes such as irritability, difficulty concentrating, hopelessness in facing the future, remembering in detail the tragic events experienced. Your complaints are aggravating, especially if there are suicidal intentions, and because you have been complaining for a long time, it's a good idea to check with a psychiatric specialist / psychiatrist so that the doctor can carry out direct examinations and counseling can be carried out. From there the doctor can make a diagnosis and further counseling can be planned.
Apart from that you can do:
Hang out with your friends and engage in positive activities Avoid being alone Be open to friends and family and make it a habit to talk to the closest people if you have a problem Hopefully useful