Loss Of Passion During Sex?
,rnrnI’ve only been married for 4 months, but my wife has symptoms of Vaginimus, so it’s very difficult for me to penetrate and over time I lose my sex drive and when I try to reconnect when it’s “stuck” or blocked from penetrating my penis It’s sluggish and it’s hard to stand back up and feel no longer lustful.rnrnEven though I feel it’s been long enough for foreplay and make my wife as relaxed as possible, but she is still very scared when I will penetrate and finally my penis like hitting a wall.rnrnAny suggestions for us?rnrnThanks in advance.
From the information you conveyed, there are complaints of intimate relationships that are not going well, due to the wife's anxiety and like hitting a wall, so you can't penetrate directly well, possibly caused by vaginismus or tension around the vagina. This condition can be triggered by worry and anxiety about complaints of pain because the hymen has not ruptured, shame, or are not ready to have children, or worries from the environment around you during sex (as there are many people who are active in the house).
This anxiety will affect your wife's thinking and mood, so good communication is needed between you and your wife. Speak softly and provide support to her, and provide a good solution for your wife. That way, you will know the cause and try to live it together. All of these things are normal conditions, especially for a woman who is easily anxious and newly married to undergo a form of intimate relationship that she has never been through.
It is also necessary to consider the presence of a hymen or virgin membrane that has not been broken or torn. This can cause complaints of pain and discomfort in the vagina. If the hymen has not been torn, then you will feel penetration that seems to hit a wall or barrier for the penis to enter. So it takes understanding and readiness of your wife to accept this pain complaint and vaginal bleeding.
The existence of a hymen that has not been torn you need to discuss with your wife, that if this is still there, it will cause penetration to fail and you can not have sex in peace.
Therefore, if you still have concerns about pain because the hymen is not torn, or you still feel vaginismus, then you and your wife should consult a gynecologist to get the best solution. Your doctor may suggest manually opening the blood membrane with minor surgery, although this may not be necessary.
That's the information we can convey, read also the discussion and the hymen.