Overcoming Excessive Anxiety After Experiencing Loss?
Last January I lost my father suddenly. Until now I keep thinking about that incident. There is anxiety, fear, excessive worry in my heart. For example, my mother’s leg hurts, after that time my mind kept going to it. Then for example I have a fever, my mind is also happening again (because before my father died, my father just said that he was not feeling well). Until it was difficult to sleep, thinking about it.
Good morning, thanks for asking at HealthReplies.com. We understand your concern. Traumatic events such as those left by family and loved ones do have different traces for each person. Normally, if indeed this incident makes us very devastated, our minds will respond with a positive attitude. For example, we become more devoted to parents, more loving the remaining family members, more concerned with health, wiser in dealing with life and so forth.
But our mind can also respond abnormally, among the examples is maybe as you mentioned, that the fear becomes excessive, your mind continues to be focused with death, everything that reminds you of your father's death makes you flutter, so you don't can finish any job because of that.
If that is the case, our recommendation is to check yourself with a psychiatrist. Because unlike other illnesses, mental illness or mind requires a complete description of the person's background. For example, for people who experience coughing, regardless of what causes coughing, the cure is still cough medicine. In contrast to mental illness, in people who have the same anxiety disorder as you, although both are given anti-anxiety drugs, but you might feel excessive fear because you are close to your father, or it could be because you saw the process of death and that is something that is traumatic for you, or because you feel guilty about one thing or another. All of these backgrounds can be addressed in different ways. Therefore it is important to still consult a psychiatrist.
The handling that you will receive later varies depending on the conditions. Can be supportive psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, EMDR, and so forth. While at home, try to tell your problem to the people closest to you, and try to be understood slowly, that everyone will die on time. And that you have the right to be sad, but the most important thing is how to maximize what you have, so that you can face the future better. So, hopefully answering your question.