The Best Way To Communicate With 15 Year Olds?
evening, my daughter is 15 years old at this time, what is the best way to communicate with her because I feel lately her attitude is a little different. after I observed he began to be interested in the opposite sex. I’m afraid it could interfere with the school, especially since it’s close to unbk time. thanks for the suggestions
Good morning, thanks for asking at HealthReplies.com. Taking care of children is not easy, especially with the different characteristics of children, and the many influences of the outside world in this era. Especially with children who have just entered their teens, where at this age, teenagers begin to feel they can take care of themselves, begin to get to know the wider social environment of their family and place of residence, and begin to have their own opinions.
So, in addition to patience and perseverance, educating children is an art that may vary depending on the psychological development of the child itself. However, some of the ways you can do this are:
Let him decide. As a parent who clearly already has much more life experience, of course sometimes it is frustrating to see a child who decides something that might be detrimental to himself, such as spending savings on things that you think may not be useful. But some things have to be experienced, and limiting your child too much will only make him rebel and turn away from you. Let him decide and accept the consequences, so that he learns. Of course, for things that endanger his life and future, you still have to forbid it no matter what. So his friend. As we've said, teens begin to see other people who are the same age and have more in common with themselves than families whose only people are older or younger. So be his friend, dive into his world, enter his mind, try to understand what he likes, he likes, what is trending in his daily life. That way, he'll see you less differently, and will be more open to you. Don't blame too much. Everyone makes mistakes at some point, and these mistakes are sometimes intolerable for other people, including you as a parent. But you also have to understand that it is from mistakes that people learn, it is from mistakes that your child builds the foundation for better decisions in the future, and by blaming too often, besides making your child afraid to do something, this will keep you from doing something. him from you, and you will find it increasingly difficult to communicate with him. Understand that behind all the mistakes, all the changing brushes, there is a child who is just trying to understand the complexity of the world. Be him. Oftentimes, conflicts between children and parents start because of a lack of understanding of each other's point of view so that children will think that their parents are not 'cool' and do not understand themselves or the youth as a whole. Meanwhile, parents decide something because of their life experiences for the good of their children. No one wants to budge, and a conflict ensues. This is mainly because it is rare for parents to understand their children's point of view, even though the funny thing is that parents were once children but children never became adults. So that we cannot force children to understand our point of view because we are more mature, and it is we who must understand their point of view. Be him, remember how you were when you were a teenager, tell him your past, that way your bond with him will be stronger.
Obviously, one thing you have to remember is that you can't achieve this instantly. Besides the differences in family patterns and the unique characteristics of each person, too fast a change in attitude from parents will actually make children unable to accept and see it as something strange. So again, your patience and empathy for your child is the primary language of communication. Tell him about his priorities slowly, be patient and tell your reasons why it should be made a priority.
So, hopefully useful.
dr. Amadeo D Basfiansa